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Harm in Women Working
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1. Harm to the Man: When you work, you rob your husband of his right to meet ordinary challenges, and to grow by these challenges. And, as you become capable, efficient, and independent, he feels less needed, andtherefore less masculine. This weakens him. As you lift, he sets the bucket down.
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2. Harm to the Woman: When you work by choice, you tend to lose some of your womanliness. When you work you tend to take on masculine traits, to be aggressive, bold, capable, efficient, and independent, resulting ina loss of feminine charm. How much charm you lose depends on the type of work. Less masculine jobs are secretarial, clerical, nursing, school teaching, and child care. But any type of work which earns money encourages independence, an enemy to feminine charm. Quoting from my husband's book, "Man of Steel and Velvet": "
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When a woman divides herself between two worlds it's difficult forher to succeed in either. In her world alone she has challenge enough to achieve the domestic excellence she desires. Here she is the understanding wife, the devoted mother and homemaker, and gains great satisfaction from a job well done. This takes great effort. To divide her time and interests between two worlds makes success in eitherdifficult. "Even if she rejects her home sphere and turns her heart and soul to the working world, she will have difficulty. In many jobs she will have a natural disadvantage. She will not meet man's excellence in his world, but will always be secondary to him. So she wanders between two worlds, having rejected her own where she could have been superior and chosen another where she will never be anything but a second-rate man."When a woman works because it is her husband's idea, an even greater harm comes. His suggestion that she work casts doubt in her mind as to his adequacy as a man. If he must lean on her, she will question his ability to solve his problems and face responsibility that is his. This brings insecurity. "Still another harm to consider is the woman's relationship to her employer, especially if he is a man. She's accustomed to looking up to her husband as the director of her activities. When she finds herself taking orders from another man, it is an unnatural situation. She owes him obedience as her employer, and in countless hours of close contactshe may find herself physically attracted to him. Seeing hat his best and perhaps as a more dynamic and effective leader than her husband, she makes comparisons unfavorable to her husband, whose faults and failingsshe knows all to well."
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3. Harm to the Children: When a mother works due to a compelling emergency, children adjust to this situation. They're able to understand when a genuine emergency exists. They may suffer neglect but don't feel lack of love or concern. When a mother works by choice, great harm can come to the child. When he realizes she prefers to work instead of taking care of him, that she places her interests or luxuries ahead of his basic needs, this raises doubt about her love. The children of working mothers usually suffer considerable neglect. Not in all cases,but in most. The woman who works must dedicate herself to her job in order to succeed and justify her pay. During the working hours her job's a priority. At times it will be demanding. Her children are less demanding. They're naturally the ones who suffer. >>
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From Fasinating Womanhood
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1. Harm to the Man: When you work, you rob your husband of his right to meet ordinary challenges, and to grow by these challenges. And, as you become capable, efficient, and independent, he feels less needed, andtherefore less masculine. This weakens him. As you lift, he sets the bucket down.
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2. Harm to the Woman: When you work by choice, you tend to lose some of your womanliness. When you work you tend to take on masculine traits, to be aggressive, bold, capable, efficient, and independent, resulting ina loss of feminine charm. How much charm you lose depends on the type of work. Less masculine jobs are secretarial, clerical, nursing, school teaching, and child care. But any type of work which earns money encourages independence, an enemy to feminine charm. Quoting from my husband's book, "Man of Steel and Velvet": "
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When a woman divides herself between two worlds it's difficult forher to succeed in either. In her world alone she has challenge enough to achieve the domestic excellence she desires. Here she is the understanding wife, the devoted mother and homemaker, and gains great satisfaction from a job well done. This takes great effort. To divide her time and interests between two worlds makes success in eitherdifficult. "Even if she rejects her home sphere and turns her heart and soul to the working world, she will have difficulty. In many jobs she will have a natural disadvantage. She will not meet man's excellence in his world, but will always be secondary to him. So she wanders between two worlds, having rejected her own where she could have been superior and chosen another where she will never be anything but a second-rate man."When a woman works because it is her husband's idea, an even greater harm comes. His suggestion that she work casts doubt in her mind as to his adequacy as a man. If he must lean on her, she will question his ability to solve his problems and face responsibility that is his. This brings insecurity. "Still another harm to consider is the woman's relationship to her employer, especially if he is a man. She's accustomed to looking up to her husband as the director of her activities. When she finds herself taking orders from another man, it is an unnatural situation. She owes him obedience as her employer, and in countless hours of close contactshe may find herself physically attracted to him. Seeing hat his best and perhaps as a more dynamic and effective leader than her husband, she makes comparisons unfavorable to her husband, whose faults and failingsshe knows all to well."
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3. Harm to the Children: When a mother works due to a compelling emergency, children adjust to this situation. They're able to understand when a genuine emergency exists. They may suffer neglect but don't feel lack of love or concern. When a mother works by choice, great harm can come to the child. When he realizes she prefers to work instead of taking care of him, that she places her interests or luxuries ahead of his basic needs, this raises doubt about her love. The children of working mothers usually suffer considerable neglect. Not in all cases,but in most. The woman who works must dedicate herself to her job in order to succeed and justify her pay. During the working hours her job's a priority. At times it will be demanding. Her children are less demanding. They're naturally the ones who suffer. >>
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From Fasinating Womanhood
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